Better Left Unsaid. Or Not.

Greetings, Friends ~

Perusing Facebook, I am reminded why I do not frequent the news feed as often as I once did. It was enjoyable, wasn’t it? Log on, catch up with friends and family…read a few encouraging posts. Log off. It worked for me.

Lately, I can’t help notice the barrage of negativity embedded in religious and political posts. And not just posts from people on my list of friends. The ads alone are relentless. I don’t mind the posts informing people on life activities. Some are downright entertaining. But the nasty, digging, judgemental, putting-others-down posts cause me heartburn.

Also, controversial topics are being passed around like candy. Someone states an opinion about what most sane people would view as logical, and the attacks begin. You need a strong stomach to scroll through daily news feeds. Many things seem better left unsaid. Or not.

Maybe the problem with today is that people get offended over – well – everything.

Recently, I was virtually railed for saying that when my kids were babies, I breast fed them in public quite often. I just made sure there was a light blanket draped over us (the babies learned quickly that they were not in charge). No one ever complained or asked me to leave a public place for feeding my young. According to several people on Facebook, however, that was the wrong thing to say.

Though I remain uncertain exactly what I said wrong, that was the day I decided I would ease off reading posts where controversy was at play. And certainly, I fight the urge to offer balanced perspective. That doesn’t seem to go over well in today’s climate. I scarcely comment on anything that may in any way be taken the wrong way.

Since walking on eggshells was never my thing, I am struggling to maintain my interest in social media. The sad thing is, with people like myself who cannot stomach virtual arguing, so also go those who stand up for truth. Soon, who will be left to quash the “politically correct” (bordering on lying) and stand for what is right? In today’s mainstream, “p.c.” and “honesty” do not play nice together.

I have also noticed that same uptick in general. It is out in public, at the office, at social events. Wherever you have occasion to observe others, there is conflict. Many would say we have always had bickering and varying opinions – since the beginning of time. Perhaps. What has changed, however, is our tolerance of every single objection known to man.

I recall the day I was in a government-sponsored class where the instructor used a flip chart as a visual aid. She referred to it as such. That was unacceptable to a fellow adult student who just happened to be from the Philippines.

I could have gone my entire life without being educated on what “flip” meant in another country when used in a slanderous way. That wasn’t the case in our class, but she had an axe to grind and insisted we not say “flip chart.”

Someone in the class actually showed her where the words “flip chart pen” appeared on the writing instrument the instructor was using. The conversation went on long enough to waste a few taxpayer dollars. Guess who won that debate? No one said flip chart again that whole week. The absurdity of it was confounding.

Regardless the venue, it just seems like we now bend over backwards to accommodate everyone else’s wounds. Regardless whether those wounds have any relevance at that moment, we wind up falsely accused anyway. Then, society demands that we change our innocent and well-intended vocabulary to accommodate the “victim” of our vocabulary. It has gotten to the point where you can’t say much at all.

Don’t be the logical voice in the room. Also be warned about standing up for what is right. Do not talk back even when you know the truth is being bent or because politics are at play. It is rule after rule to govern our speech. “P.C.” is what’s right…even when it’s wrong. The problem is, the book containing all the politically-correct verbiage grows larger by the minute. Who can even keep track anymore?

I decided awhile back that when I mean to offend somebody, there will be no doubt about my intentions. I will be very direct about it. I also decided I would speak how I speak. I know that I hold no ill intentions. I also know that regardless of those good intentions, SOMEONE will take offense just because they prefer to be viewed as a victim.

Most days, I do my best to look only at the positive side of life, regardless the present challenge. It does not often enter my mind to try and find a way to make someone else wrong – for any reason. You see, I do not own the dictionary. It is also not my job to monitor another person’s speech. I am certain our Constitution has already addressed our rights to free speech.

My hope is that you feel that way too. Tell the truth about things. Also, realize that when others become offended at your truth, that is their problem. No matter how positive and kind you are, there is always going to be someone that will be offended by something you say. That is their choice to make. We need to stop accommodating every single view or belief that enters our society.

By all means, let us all be kind and considerate toward others. In that, we do not have to adopt the ever-growing habit of being afraid to speak the truth for fear someone might get offended. As the old saying goes, you can please some of the people some of the time…

As for me, I would rather be known as honest.

Be well,



About Jana Brock

We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are.
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4 Responses to Better Left Unsaid. Or Not.

  1. G. M. Curtis says:

    I believe this is a conversation we may have had several times over the past months. I must be P.C. in my line of work, I don’t get into political or religeous discussions on social media for the most part. I don’t think that is the place to air my own opinions on controversial subject matter, however, I do believe in standing up for what is right and honorable and true. Choose your battles, someone wise once told me, and I try to remember that.

  2. Jon says:

    Well said, and thanks for having the courage to say. JP

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